This is totally off the cuff, but still.....
I've said in my podcasts before that I've adopted a new rule in life through recovery: If someone says something that touches my heart, I'm gonna tell 'em.
The funny thing is, it's not so much that I have "trained" myself how to do this. I found that it's something within me that I've always WANTED to do! It comes naturally. The reality was that I needed to give myself PERMISSION to do it. I had to understand that doing this isn't "stupid" or "sappy" (well...).
The amazing (also shitty) thing about any combination of mental or emotional issues, along with substance abuse, at least in my opinion, is that our perception of reality is distorted. If we see the world in unhealthy ways, we have a tendency to see ourselves just as inaccurately. We have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others.We think we have to be tougher that we think we are. We have to be smarter, or calmer. More balanced. Sometimes we finally give up and create some type of protective shell to insulate us from that world that we inaccurately see.
We do both.
Again...not giving ourselves permission to just interact to OUR comfort level and get off of our own backs if we don't seem to "measure up" to what others do...or SAY that they do.
We need to move in healthy directions. Note that I didn't say "get there overnight". We need to MOVE TOWARD healthy thoughts and directions. Sometimes those directions come from the most unlikely places. It could be something as simple as people sharing their struggles as opposed to telling you how to fix yours. When you run across these conversations at a party, or on social media, at church or at work, try thinking, "OMG ME TOO!" instead of, "Oh you think THAT'S bad, look at what I've been through!"
We don't have to "one up" another person's pain. Nor do we have to elevate someone else's importance above and beyond our own. We just need to BE. We just need to share. Ya just never know. The other person might need to hear those thoughts today. You might brighten someone's mood. You might be reminding them that they are not alone. You might be telling them that they are necessary.
Do it in healthy ways. Try not to verbally vomit on people. At first anyway. lol. Get to know them a bit first.
And if someone says something that reaches you..... Resonates with you...... Tell them.
It doesn't have to be earth shattering. Then again, some of the simplest things you share about you, might just be a huge moment for me.
Ya just never know......